Wednesday, 6 March 2013

Really Random Wednesday: The Perfect Man

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I heard John Tesh on the radio last night talking about how media has created this version of the "perfect man" which makes women feel that no matter how good their man is, they're settling.

The truth is, the perfect man doesn't exist!

Shocking, I know.

I think romance writers can be guilty of contributing to the delusions. In romance books, the men are wealthy, handsome studs, who are capable of unlimited sexual encounters, and leave their heroines paralyzed by their multiple orgasms from the best sex they've ever had in their lives. Surely, though, women are intelligent enough to realize that these men are mere fantasy. Aren't they?

On an intellectual level, we are. But it can be nice to dream. The trick is to make sure you know that no man is perfect. In fact, many are deeply flawed, and it takes good communication and understanding to make a relationship work. Apparently there is a greater trend in romance for the heroes to be flawed, which is a nice reality check for those of us who get too caught up with our fantasy men.

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I have to say I'm guilty of making my heroes a bit too perfect. I try to give them flaws, but it's hard. This is something I'd like to work on more, since flaws are a good source of conflict, and without conflict, your story fizzles out pretty quickly. Plus I'm one of those women who has a thing for the bad boys. It doesn't mean I don't get frustrated when hubby doesn't act the way I want him to! He's not perfect, but he does have one huge thing going for him (get your minds out of the gutter!).

He loves me.

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